A Special Friend

While cleaning out the basement, I came across a doll that my best friend in high school had given me. For my birthday one year, Laurie gave me a Precious Moments doll dressed in overalls made from the most adorable farm fabric. I have had it for about 17 years.

Laurie and I were inseparable during high school. I met her when my family moved to Idaho right before I started 9th grade, back in 1992. After spending my childhood moving around with the military, Laurie was my first best friend. We loved sleep-overs, Cool Runnings at the Plaza Twin, #1’s with a large vanilla milkshake from McDonald’s. We bought matching dresses, babysat together, learned to drive together. We spent four years enjoying each other’s company, and I never imagined it would be any different.

And then we graduated.

And she was gone, just like that.

No phone calls. No letters. Nothing. We all have different paths to follow, but it still hurts to be left behind. I spent years wondering what I did wrong. And then I received an email. It contained a poem about friends, those who stay and those who leave, and the purpose for each. I have come to realize that for me, Laurie was a Reason. She helped me through what could have been some of the most difficult years of my life. I hope I did the same for her.

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

My twins were born on Laurie’s birthday. Every year I silently wish her a happy day, and I hope all of her dreams have come true.